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Post by caressa on Jan 25, 2010 6:39:47 GMT -5
A good chip for me when I am dealing with public. As a rule, I have learned to be tolerant. Two things that I have problems with is rudeness and lack of respect for people, places and things. For me there is no excuse for rudeness. The only difference in today is that I can set a boundary, state my opinion and do it kindly instead of lowering myself to the other person's level. I don't have to be a screaming, loud and unsightly shrew like I was when I was using. As my sponsor use to day, "If you have recovery, show it!" Attachments:
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 25, 2010 13:50:03 GMT -5
Tolerance - or - Intolerance
"Tolerance is the positive and cordial effort to understand
another's beliefs, practices, and habits without necessarily
sharing or accepting them." - - Joshua Liebman
When I become impatient with my loved ones, or unwilling
to respect, differences in our opinions, this is showing
intolerance and disrespect. And just plain rude! This is a
behavior I try to avoid....
I am willing to listen to anyones opinion and my level of
tolerance works pretty well most of the time. I am learning
the art of "agreeing to disagree" and developing a sense of
humor. ;D
Coming into recovery, I saw life as black or white and have
discovered that beige and gray are two of my favorite colors.
Wanting to be right at any cost can really get us into a very
bad place. Today I care more about being happy, I've backed
away on my being so sure my way is the only right way......
Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl
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Post by caressa on Jan 25, 2010 14:06:11 GMT -5
This was really hard for me to do. For so many years, I didn't open my mouth or I opened it too much or in a way that was not good (the screaming shrew).
It was important for me to set a boundary, to say what I needed to say instead of internalizing everything. For so many years I stuffed things which lead to an unhealthy mental state full of resentment, anger and repressed feelings which ate away inside of me. Today, I try to say, "When you do that, I feel...," or "That behavior is not acceptable to me," or "That really upsets me and I would rather you didn't do that in my space..."
Before I would often argue for arguements sake, I don't do that today but it was important for me to speak up and respect myself because I found that if I didn't, others didn't respect me either.
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Post by caressa222 on Feb 12, 2018 23:07:58 GMT -5
Have to be tolerant of myself. Like my left knee that doesn't want to hold me up. This morning it was the left him and right knee. Some days I have to take it minute by minute.
I plan to do a meditation when I am finished posting and see what messages I get.
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.