The Victim ?

[SunnyGirl]

Today, I will liberate myself by letting go of my need to be a
victim, and I'll explore my freedom to take care of myself. That
liberation will not take me further away from people I love. It
will bring me closer to people and more in harmony with God's
plan for my life.
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Co-dependency is centered around the Drama Triangle.
The three roles of the Drama Triangle are the Victim, the
Persecutor, and the Rescuer.

Most of us typically favor one or two roles over the other. I used
to very much be the rescuer, but I seemed to favor the victim role.
If I am honest, I'd have to say that it's the victim in me that
craves attention and sympathy. I have to work hard to stay
away from this "stinkin thinkin" and avoid the drama at all cost!
I am no longer satisfied with being an actor in this play, I want
to be the director. I want to take charge of my life!

We learn to admit our powerlessness over people, places and
things.... BUT, it does not make us weak! It does not mean
we are victims and it does not mean we are helpless!

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the
difference.....

I am in charge today..... God gives me the strength and with
His help, I have the power to do the very best I can each day.
I refuse to play the part of the victim....

Peace on the journey, SG

[caressa]

In today, I don't have to give up my power. The program teaches me to detach, set boundaries, to say "No" and "Not right now" or "When it is good for me!"

When I surrender, I am empowered to do what I need to do for myself. It is never about weakness, of myself I am powerless over people, places and things. It is up to me to not take on the role that is so often projected onto me or something that I feel I am responsible for. I need to let go of the old tapes and live in the moment and not allow old messages to affect the present.

[SunnyGirl]

well said Caressa....

"We have been criticizing ourselves for years, and it hasn't
worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens."
- - Louise L. Hay

I agree totally! My powerlessness is not a weakness, I
surrender to win!

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[Lin]

I see powerlessness as being empowered...admitting I am not in charge of the rest of the world's problems gives me the fereedom to take charge of ME...my life, my choices.

I rememebr when I felt I was the victim. I felt I hwas forced to grow up way too fast...not enjoy being a kid. Nobody told me I ahd to take on that role. It jstu seems like it was up to me to clean, cook, do laundry to keep my dad from raging if my mom was passed out when he got home. I started that when I was abotu 8, so I feel I lost alot of my chiclhood. I felt the victim for many years. Today I see it as my choice. I also seee it as a change to work on skills that I have kept today such as being organized and able to multitask.

LIN

[SunnyGirl]

well said Lin....

I am no longer the victim, but I have watched my younger
sister portray this roll and she could get an Oscar for it. I
don't judge her, but I will offer tips on getting out of this roll
and she closes her ears to it. I have never walked in her
shoes, but have always been around to hear her moan and
complain about it.... I have quit offering suggestions!

"Nothing changes, if nothing changes", we can continue to
repeat our mistakes or we can change the way we accept
each day. The one thing I need to always keep in mind is
I can't fix her! My recovery reminds me, didn't cause it, can't
cure it, and can't control it! Today I will worry about me
setting healthy boundaries and making Me the best person
I can be.....

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl