Wednesday's Chip: HONEST - DISHONEST

[SunnyGirl]

Wednesday's Chip: HONEST - DISHONEST

“Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed
our path” (How it works: p. 58)

Each day I make a real effort toward being brutally honest
with those around me but most of all myself. When we stay in
denial we can not change and recovery is impossible. "Nothing
changes if nothing changes" This quote hit me right smack in the
head! I had continued with the patterns I had come into recovery
with and could not understand why my life was still in total
chaos.

Those of us who can make the decision to be honest now find
that even honesty is not enough. We must be willing to go to
any lengths and even then we are only ready to move forward.
Moving forward means change, I can't stay stuck being blind to
my defects. Being dishonest, lying to myself, never helped me
with anything in my life. My goal is to check my ego at the door,
look at myself in the mirror and be honest about the person I
see staring back at me.....


Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[caressa]

Have found out over the years that there is honest, and then there is true honesty. I thought I was honest at the time, but at the time, it was my truth, but over the years my outlook changed.

I would have been highly affronted if you even suggested that I was any less than honest, and yet cash register honesty was alway a given and yet I stole time, affection, ideas, etc. and a lot of things I wrapped up in a blanket of denial, saw with tunnel vision or through rose-coloured glasses.

Self-Honesty is what it took to heal and to grow in this program. I could no longer be dishonest with myself. I had to find a new awareness and acceptance and through this program, by looking at me instead of justifying and rationalizing my behavior, giving up blame, control and manipulation, take my eyes off the outside and look inward.

What is nice is the unconditional love that goes with it!

[caressa222]

It is hard to believe that 8 years have past since I wrote this.

Like the idea of unconditional love for oneself. No matter what, love yourself. that is difficult for me when my new clothes I bought in the last 6 months, no longer fits.