Post by caressa on Apr 18, 2010 11:43:06 GMT -5
Most of our struggles are with other persons or perhaps situations we want to change. We discover that our continual opposition adds fuel to the fires (at least our own internal ones).[/
- Each Day A New Beginning
This seems to be true for most issues. Whether it is anger, resentment, guilt, blame, etc. the more you feed into it the bigger it grows. If I don't keep putting those little digs in, my two cents, egg someone on, think that I am better than, I can take a true look at the situation and take responsibility for my acitons and see things as they truly are. Often I don't want to acknowledge something because then I would have to do something about it. It is so much easier to see things in another person and not be aware it is often a reflection from within me.
I am not as bad a they are. I don't do that. I go to church every Sunday. I try to follow the Golden Rule. Yet often there is a but! As they say, often after every 'but' there is bullsh*t!
We struggle with ourselves and blame everyone else instead of taking a good look at ourselves. Do we want to continue this way? Am I aware that my disease is progressive? Am I aware that my problem is a disease? A dis-ease within myself that keeps me looking outside of myself to make me feel better. It keeps the focus off me and focuses on others. It keeps me affixed to people, places and things and I use them to take my mind off of myself so I don't have to look at where I am in today. I can avoid my feelings and stuff them and not deal with them and pretend they are not there.
When I stop struggling, surrender, and ask for help, the direction is always there if I choose to listen.
milkmanscircle.net/forum/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=10144
- Each Day A New Beginning
This seems to be true for most issues. Whether it is anger, resentment, guilt, blame, etc. the more you feed into it the bigger it grows. If I don't keep putting those little digs in, my two cents, egg someone on, think that I am better than, I can take a true look at the situation and take responsibility for my acitons and see things as they truly are. Often I don't want to acknowledge something because then I would have to do something about it. It is so much easier to see things in another person and not be aware it is often a reflection from within me.
I am not as bad a they are. I don't do that. I go to church every Sunday. I try to follow the Golden Rule. Yet often there is a but! As they say, often after every 'but' there is bullsh*t!
We struggle with ourselves and blame everyone else instead of taking a good look at ourselves. Do we want to continue this way? Am I aware that my disease is progressive? Am I aware that my problem is a disease? A dis-ease within myself that keeps me looking outside of myself to make me feel better. It keeps the focus off me and focuses on others. It keeps me affixed to people, places and things and I use them to take my mind off of myself so I don't have to look at where I am in today. I can avoid my feelings and stuff them and not deal with them and pretend they are not there.
When I stop struggling, surrender, and ask for help, the direction is always there if I choose to listen.
milkmanscircle.net/forum/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=10144
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.