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Post by mrsspanish on Feb 22, 2004 22:05:23 GMT -5
please bear with me...tonight i just need to get something off my chest and i know you will understand....i have been saying lately that i have come along way since i threw my husband out 2 years. i have gained self confidence and have done for myself and realized that i count.... well... unfortunately my divorce process is dragging itself out and without intending to, i met and fell in love with a man and he with me.. he is so good to me and my kids and i am finally being treated the way i should be... the problem is that it the last week or so his family has come down on him for dating someone who is not divorced yet. he and his family are very religious and they feel this is morally wrong. we both know that it is not the right thing do to but with all the unhappiness we both have had for years, we want the happiness we now have. i know he loves me but i feel that he is pulling away from me. he admits that he is torn and doesnt know what to do. i dont want to lose him but i cant make my divorce go any faster( even though i have tried everything i could think of) and i dont wasn to appear to be the clinging female... but the truth is that i feel depressed and nothing seems to make me feel better and this is how i felt years ago...i know i should rise above this and i need only myself... but i just cant.  thanks for listening |
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Post by lildee on Feb 22, 2004 23:03:35 GMT -5
Hi Doris,
Glad to see you posting again.
As for your situation put it in God's hands. If it is supoosed to be the right man for you he will be there, even if the divorece takes a while. Have faith that things will work out. You are in my prayers.
love you and God Bless
Arlene
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Post by dg on Feb 23, 2004 1:19:56 GMT -5
Hi Doris,
I am so glad that you found someone that you love, and that you are happy again.
Lildee said pretty much what I would have said to you.
Let go and Let God and just remember how far you have grown to become what you are today, have faith in HP. Things always happens for a reason.
Take care. ((doris))
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Post by Lin on Feb 23, 2004 5:23:05 GMT -5
I am happy you found somebody who is good to you. If it is real love,,he will be there when the divorce is finally through. meanwhiel, you might be able to sped it up ...I'd try one more time at least. Perhaps jsut a call to your lawyer to see the status of it? Someplaces have a witing time, and if that's the case, youjsut have to wait.
Put it in God's hands. If it is meant to be, it will be.
Good to see you posting. {{{{{{{{{{{doris}}}}}}}}}}}}
LIN
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Post by usdupn02 on Feb 23, 2004 10:51:27 GMT -5
(((Doris))),
All I can say is "ditto" to those that have posted before me. We can't force HP's hand and have to remember all things in His time not our time. I'm happy that you have found someone to share good times with.
Praying for you...Janet
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Post by SunnyGirl on Feb 23, 2004 11:36:44 GMT -5
( ( ( ( Doris ) ) ) )
I have to agree with all those above, who have shared
their ESH. God answers our prayers in one of three
ways, YES-NO and WAIT. Sometimes waiting is the
most difficult of all....
You said "I feel depressed and nothing seems to make
me feel better"........ I don't know how severe your
depression is, but you may want to check with your
doctor. Depression can be treated and if it is a chemical
imbalance the meds would help you so much.
God doesn't always give us everything we want, but HE
does give you what you need each day. Keep the focus
on you and if this wonderful new friend of yours is the
man that God intends for you, it will happen in HIS time.
Sending prayers for good health and happiness, for you
and all you love ...... Hugs, SG
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Post by Caressa2 on Feb 23, 2004 18:08:53 GMT -5
(((Mrs. Spanish)))
My new boyfriend has strong religious beliefs too and he has had to come to terms with himself and his beliefs because heaven knows, I am a true spiritualist but have strong Christian beliefs too. I am a very open person and he sometimes is torn between what the church says and what he feels in his heart.
My prayers to you both, and may he find the love and patience within himself to wait for something special and a new beginning for both of you.
My second marriage happened because the family thought it should happen because he was the oldest in the family and was responsible. What should have been a marriage made in heaven was something out of hell which lasted seven years.
I can also identify with the new experience of a man treating you with love and kindness. My new relationship has been something that I have never experienced through two marriages and seven long-term relationships (three in recovery). It feels too good to be true and I often think the boom is going to fall and I have watch that I don't do something to sabatoge it all.
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Post by mrsspanish on Feb 23, 2004 19:58:23 GMT -5
thank you all so much who have replied. what you all have said is true.. i know it all in my head but..... my heart is another story and while i am not depressed in the sense of it being dangerous, i feel this big open hole in my heart,,,,, i feel as if i could kick myself for even allowing this realtionship to happen and putting myself in the position to be heart, yet again......i wish i cou;ld get this sinking feeling to go away.................
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Post by MrDuck on Feb 29, 2004 7:22:40 GMT -5
Morning,
I don't pop in much and don't read many when I do but this one did catch my attention a week or so back. Brought tears to my eyes and made me think about things.
We all have for say a set of rules that we believe in and would like to follow. But sometimes situations, places and or things changes that. Is it right to follow though, maybe, maybe not. Is it right not to follow though, maybe, maybe not. In your situtation. I can see both sides of the coin. But I don't see where it is that wrong seeing as how you left hubby 2 years ago and working on a divorce. If you left hubby last week week I would think differently but not after 2 years.
It amazes me how shellow (sp) some people can be. Unless of course it is to their advantage.
As for relatives. Well don't get me wrong. I get along good with most of them. There are a few that I don't have much going for. But the bottom line is this. I have to life with the one in the mirrow. If I do what I need to do for me and they don't like it. Not my problem. There are plenty of things they do that I don't agree with either. But I don't have to face the one in the mirror that they see.
Your a neat lady Doris. I do wish you the best.
Ron
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Hugs, Doris
~With Peace & Love, dg~ 8*)[/b][/size]
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