Post by caressa on Jun 8, 2010 11:18:20 GMT -5
I was acting out my patterns when I denied that I had any patterns.
--Julie F.
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Again the five As of change are awareness, admittance, acceptance, action and attitude.
I can't change somthing if I am in denial about it being there. That is not saying it is not there, it is just that I am choosing to not look at it, to turn a blind eye and act as if it isn't happening.
So often it is the thought behind the action that I need to change. I try to change the action and forget that it isn't always rooted in the present but comes from my past.
I often don't recognize it as a using pattern because it is something I have been doing for a long time or I saw others do it and thought it was okay. If it was good for them, especially if it was a parent, a relative or friend, a clergyman, etc. you take it as something good.
It isn't about just putting down my drugs. It is also recognizing what other drugs I can pick up to fill the void of my drug of choice. Not recognizing that I want to stuff a feeling, that I have an emotion that I don't know how to handle so I reach for something to make it go away or feel better, like food or a friend, partner or spouse. I can get caught up in busy and work so I don't have to look at myself.
I don't want to recognize that I use people, places, and things (work, TV, bed, clubs, programs, etc.) in recovery to substitute because I haven't learned to apply the Steps or turned things over to my Hgher Power.
Pulling a hissy foot when things don't go my way is not a recovery act. Demanding that my way is the only way is not a recovery way. Turning my back on things because they are negative isn't reality. There are things in life that are negative. It is what can we do to change them. What goodness can I find in them. Do I have to detach from them, are they healthy for my recovery?
--Julie F.
eor.proboards.com/index.cgi?action=display&board=spuds&thread=9087
Again the five As of change are awareness, admittance, acceptance, action and attitude.
I can't change somthing if I am in denial about it being there. That is not saying it is not there, it is just that I am choosing to not look at it, to turn a blind eye and act as if it isn't happening.
So often it is the thought behind the action that I need to change. I try to change the action and forget that it isn't always rooted in the present but comes from my past.
I often don't recognize it as a using pattern because it is something I have been doing for a long time or I saw others do it and thought it was okay. If it was good for them, especially if it was a parent, a relative or friend, a clergyman, etc. you take it as something good.
It isn't about just putting down my drugs. It is also recognizing what other drugs I can pick up to fill the void of my drug of choice. Not recognizing that I want to stuff a feeling, that I have an emotion that I don't know how to handle so I reach for something to make it go away or feel better, like food or a friend, partner or spouse. I can get caught up in busy and work so I don't have to look at myself.
I don't want to recognize that I use people, places, and things (work, TV, bed, clubs, programs, etc.) in recovery to substitute because I haven't learned to apply the Steps or turned things over to my Hgher Power.
Pulling a hissy foot when things don't go my way is not a recovery act. Demanding that my way is the only way is not a recovery way. Turning my back on things because they are negative isn't reality. There are things in life that are negative. It is what can we do to change them. What goodness can I find in them. Do I have to detach from them, are they healthy for my recovery?
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.