Post by caressa on Jan 12, 2007 15:35:13 GMT -5
Today's Reminder:
Now I know how to end an argument by simply refusing to participate, to turn to my Higher Power for help with whatever I'm powerless to change, to say, "No," when I mean no, and to step back from insanity rather than diving into it. Detachment is a loving gift I continue to give to myself and to others.
- Courage to Change (Al-Anon)
"If a man carries his own lantern, he need not fear darkness."
Hasidic saying
Detaching doesn't mean that I don't love someone. It is often tough love, but it is also about loving myself and not allowing myself to be misused and abused, which generally is a result of fear.
The darkness mentioned here reminds me of how important it is to do an inventory, to look at my part and how I was involved in bringing things to where they are in the moment. My decisions, my choices, my actions, etc. When I allow faith to come in, the fer goes away. Fear and faith can't occupy the same space.
Now I know how to end an argument by simply refusing to participate, to turn to my Higher Power for help with whatever I'm powerless to change, to say, "No," when I mean no, and to step back from insanity rather than diving into it. Detachment is a loving gift I continue to give to myself and to others.
- Courage to Change (Al-Anon)
"If a man carries his own lantern, he need not fear darkness."
Hasidic saying
Detaching doesn't mean that I don't love someone. It is often tough love, but it is also about loving myself and not allowing myself to be misused and abused, which generally is a result of fear.
The darkness mentioned here reminds me of how important it is to do an inventory, to look at my part and how I was involved in bringing things to where they are in the moment. My decisions, my choices, my actions, etc. When I allow faith to come in, the fer goes away. Fear and faith can't occupy the same space.
Hugs, Doris
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.