Topic for the week: Dealing with rude people...

[SunnyGirl]

How do I deal with rude people?

All of us face situations when people will attack you or
say rude and insulting things to you. My first thought
is to react and give them back much what they gave me.
But, when I slow down and THINK it all the way through,
this is never the best solution. All this accomplishes is
to lower myself to their standards.

Often people are so self-absorbed with themselves they
don't even realize how bad their hurtful words really are.

“The tongue like a sharp knife,
it kills without drawing blood.”
- - Buddha

For me a slap in the face is less hurtful than listening to
others demean or belittle me. I try hard to be very careful
about making smart or nasty remarks. I try not to put other
people down, because they don't agree with me.

"Be careful of the words you say,
Keep them short and sweet.
You never know, from day to day,
Which ones you'll have to eat."
- Anonymous

My Grandmother used to recite this to me when I was just
a child and it's stuck with me all these years. 12-step recovery
has taught me to act instead of react, it's not always easy
but it's always worth it!

Please share your thoughts...

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[caressa]

Don't have much time for rude people. Have been dealing with such a person on FB. Not so much rood as 'in your face - I am right, you are wrong' type of person. Very rigid in his beliefs and not open to anything else other than what he sees as the truth. He is very firm in his belief and his whole manner is very off putting.

Most times I ignore him and don't feed into his ego. Other times, I state what I believe. It isn't just me, but two others have expressed the same views as I have. People have posted and then stopped posting because he comes back disagreeing with other people's feeling.

As a rule, most times in today, I don't go yelling and screaming like the shrew I use to be. A couple of times in the grocery store, I have seen a customer being rude to a staff member. I have told them that they had been rude when they looked at me in exasperation because they didn't get what they wanted or felt was their right to get.

As the slogan says, "How important is it?" Sometimes I think it IS important to speak up and speak your piece and to set a boundary when someone invades your space.

[SunnyGirl]

My thought for the day on rude people....

One way I deal with rude people is to "kill them with kindness."
Another one is to simply to ignore them and their rude behavior.
I find that some people act rudely just for the shock value. They
deliberately provoke you. Last but not least, if they are in my
life daily I will pray for them....

Peace on the journey, SG

[caressa]

Amen! All of the above for sure!

[caressa]

Had to make sure I wasn't one of those rude people today. I asked the woman at the pharmacy to call for a taxi to take me to my doctor's appointment. He arrived at the front, I wasn't there, he drove to the back (no wheelchair access back there) and drove into the marking lot, went back around and then he saw me with my walker, and he backed into the front of the building. With all his manouvering, I was five minutes late for my appointment. I do not like being late.

The woman at the pharmacy calls everyone sweetheart and honey. It really struck a chord with me today seeing as I was overtired. It is something that annoys me at the best of times. She kept promising that my prescriptions would be ready, cashed me out but still they were not ready and I had to leave without them.

I said the Serenity Prayer a few times. I even gave the cab driver a $1. tip as he has to fold and unfold my walker for me.