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Post by caressa on Jul 6, 2010 22:11:21 GMT -5
Acceptance is the key to all my problems today! How often we quote it! It is something I know, something I need, and yet sometimes, I just can't seem to find it. I went to my meeting tonight and was asked if I had a topic I would liked discussed. Most time, when asked, it comes up for me. It use to be acceptance of my alcoholism. That I can accept in today. Acceptance of life on life's terms, most times I am there. Acceptance of my chronic pain, lately it is falling far short of where it should be. Acceptance that I can't do what I use to do, a real biggie! Acceptance that I am getting old, no longer fight and screaming, was more like giving up and not caring. Acceptance of other people, most time because I know where they are coming from. I learned a long time ago not to put expectations on others and as the BB says, when my acceptance is high and my expectations are low, life is good. Attachments:
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jul 11, 2010 13:51:26 GMT -5
well said Caressa! Acceptance is the key to all my problems today! I so agree with this... Accepting what ever life hands to me today! Accepting myself, knowing full well that I am not perfect and never will be in this lifetime. There was a time when I would really beat myself up, over my perceived shortcomings and I'd do this to try to motivate myself. Change doesn't happen over night and neither does acceptance and as long as I am making forward progress, I will eventually meet my goals. We all grow older and our bodies can and often do slow down, but I prefer to to equate myself to good cheddar cheese that has been aged, it just adds to the flavor of the cheese.  I am trying to age gracefully, my mind seems to be working well even if other body parts are beginning to show some wear and tear.... In the days of yore, the elders were really looked up to, not sure that's the case any more, but such is life! Your friend in recovery, SunnyGirl |
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Post by caressa on Jul 12, 2010 8:52:45 GMT -5
When I learn to accept, what is in the moment. Life is so much better. I don't have to like it. I can accept people for where they are at but have problems when people don't return the same courtesy.
Until I can find acceptance, I can stay stuck. It is part of the grieving process which we all go through when we come into recovery.
We have lost our best friend. Our drug of choice was our closest friend until it became a harmful enemy.
When we come into recovery, we go through that process: anger, depression, sadness, bargaining and acceptance. We don't do it in order, often going from one thing and another and back again.
Every time there is a change in our life we go through grief. The loss of old people, places and thngs in our recovery that are no longer safe if I want to maintain my sobriety.
Even a change in our job, relationships, and routine can cause grieve and is why it is suggested, "No major changes in your first year of recovery.
It is also part of our growing process. When we stay stuck and can't seem to move forward, it is often lack of acceptance. When I become complacent, often because it is 'comfortable' then it is also lack of acceptance and the desire to move onto the next Step or go back to basics and Step One. If something is 'comfortable' and feels 'just right' often it is time to move on. Even though it was good for me in early recovery, doesn't mean it still serves it purpose.
So many times, I put high expectations on myself. I expected to do this program right! There is no race to be run. There is no having to do anything let alone do it in order, although it is suggested that you do the Steps in order. You can work them in order, but for me, I had to learn to live them to the best of my ability right from the beginning. There was no reason to go around acting like an A$$ when I didn't need to be just because I hadn't gotten to Steps 6 & 7.
So many people project their expecations onto you and expect you to live up to them. Often they expect you to do their work for them. They expect you to adhere to their way and no other way. We do what we are capable of doing.
Each day, I turn that day over to my Higher Power. He leads and directs my path. When I am asked to be given the right words and thoughts, they are there. So much was put on the shelf because at first I accepted the fact that I needed it but not always in the moment. As a dear friend use to say, "Take it anyway, even if you don't need it, perhaps you will find someone else who does need it.
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Post by majestyjo on Feb 19, 2020 14:22:42 GMT -5
Until I find a measure of acceptance, I can't move forward with my life.
I need acceptance of my disease and the program before I can heal and change my self, not the alcoholic/addict, but me.
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I am trying to age gracefully, my mind
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.