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Post by SunnyGirl on Jul 18, 2010 14:18:24 GMT -5
Dealing With Criticism and Differences of Opinion The current population of the U.S. is over 300 million people and each and every one of these people have an opinion. The odds of me agreeing with them are slim and none.... I used to think I was pretty good at dealing with criticism, today I am probably my own worst critic. I don't even have to do anything, I just figure I'll hear negative comments so I don't bother following through my ideas. I know that this kind of predisposed mindset is something I need to get over. It's not alway easy stepping out of my comfort zone.... I've always dealt with criticism in the work place very well. I figured if those I work with can show me a better way, I'm all for it. But personal criticism is particularly difficult for me to handle. I may act like I am thick skinned but inside I really am a "sensitive soul"... I almost sound like Pumba in the Lion King movie I bought for the grandkids. Never mind.... But I am sensitive and get my "itty bitty feelers" hurt all the time. I love the saying, "what other people think of me is none of my business".... But truth is I want to act in such a way that people won't dislike me or talk behind my back. I'm not going to worry to much about it, but given a choice I just want to be loved and accepted.... How do you deal with criticism and differences of opinion? Please share! Peace on the journey, SG
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Post by caressa on Jul 18, 2010 17:38:42 GMT -5
Interesting! Well I get a lot of it because I am often outspoken, tell it as it is and tend not to soft peddle things too much.
To my way, if I make it too cutesy and sugar-coated, someone might die.
Then there is the part of me that has been to AA, NA, and Al-Anon and qualify for just about every room you put me in. From my angle, I can see both sides of the street. From their angle, I am on the wrong street let alone the wrong side.
I use to take it very personal. I am getting better at it. Just when I thought I had it all together, I found I needed more work on it. I don't like being told that my messages KILL people.
It is not my fault that people don't want to get honest, have an open mind or willing to go to any length for their sobriety (soundness of mind).
I share my experience. I am old! I have had lots. I learned the same way I learned how to operate a computer, by pushing the wrong buttons.
Whoops, that doesn't work! Okay, that worked let's try it again. Through it all, I never had to pick up.
Gossip is a klller. It almost drove me out of the program and not sure that in the long run, it is one of the reason I really don't have a desire to go to a lot of meetings. i.e. I said, "I have a lot of friends." Yes but you wouldn't have the male friends if you were not attractive. Pardon me, who said I was attractive. No me! Jealousy is a real killer. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend and got them. I didn't want them. They get comfortable in my space and don't make space for themselves.
I don't like being criticized for things I didn't do. The funny thing is, if they had known what I had done, they would have reason to talk. LOL!
My skin isn't so thick after all. I do care what people think and say and yet, I say what I feel needs to be said, whether it is like or accepted. It is my truth.
On the whole, I do a lot of praying for me and for them.
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Post by caressa222 on Aug 23, 2019 6:21:33 GMT -5
There is constructive criticism. It is often a out how it is said and the manner it is given. It is best to leave the attitude behind when you go to criticize anyone. It takes one to know one and your words won't be well received.
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