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Post by caressa on Aug 2, 2010 15:17:45 GMT -5
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I choose to forgive instead of holding on to resentments. Today I choose to let go of all feelings that block me from feeling love. Today I choose to see everyone through the eyes of love.
When I saw this today, I thought of what a friend shared with me yesterday about a friend who is hurting and angry and has been carrying a resentment for years.
When I come from a place of love, especially for myself, I am better able to love and forgive others. It was only through the 12 Steps and service that I was able to do that.
I stayed sick a long time because I was always looking at the other person instead of looking at me and my needs. I was giving up my power, which I didn't know I had.
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Post by caressa on Aug 26, 2010 19:23:55 GMT -5
What I didn't know was the solution. I found when I got to the doors of recovery, that if I prayed for someone for two weeks, the resentment would go away.
The person didn't always change, but I did.
When I hang onto resentments, the person I am hurting is me.
Often the person didn't even know I had a resentment toward them. Sometimes, I didn't know I had a resentment towards another.
Resentments turn to anger. Anger is a danger to us in recovery.
When the anger when it turns into rage, it eats up our soul. Especially if it is turned inward towards ourselves. We need to find healthy ways to let it go.
Anger is a part of grieving. It is also part of the grieving process that takes us from denial to acceptance.
Trust ourselves and the grief process. We won't stay angry forever. But we may need to get mad for a while as we search over what could have been, to finally accept what is.
- Melody Beattie
She also goes on to say that anger helps us move from denial to that acceptance. I wonder why I keep forgetting the denial part of grief?
Anger, denial, bargaining, sadness and acceptance are the five steps to grief. When we give up our best friend that has become our enemy, we have a void that needs to be filled. We need to fill it with spiritual things.
That is why I need to go to meetings, share with others, know that I am not alone.
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Post by BW on Aug 27, 2010 13:28:15 GMT -5
D+Anger=Danger
For me untreated anger turns into rage and that is not only dangerous to me but also to those around me...Thank God I know how to be responsible for the anger today and where to turn over that anger to before it goes into spontaneous combustion. And today I know it takes awareness and vigilence to pay attention to my feelings. Denial of my feelings or ignoring my feelings does make me sick and keeps me sick. Today I enjoy being well
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Post by caressa on Aug 31, 2010 6:30:22 GMT -5
It makes such a difference, when we become aware. It took a while in recovery to become aware and to truly feel the feelings. I had shut down for so long, it took a long time to resurface.
People, who head me share my story, would say, "A lot of anger there, a lot of anger." My response was, "That maybe so, and some is justified, but I don't feel it." Until I could actual feel it, I couldn't let it go.
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Post by caressa222 on Apr 27, 2020 5:22:52 GMT -5
Have had layers upon layers of anger and what happens in today can trigger something from my past. It is like a chain reaction and I can find myself in the past instead of being in the moment.
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.