wendy
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Post by wendy on Mar 7, 2006 8:34:30 GMT -5
i am new to this site and very nervous. i have been away from recovery for quite a long time, myself and am looking desperately for new friends and support to help me through some really difficult times. sometimes it feels like i'm really going crazy. all i want is to get better odat. i've got alot on my plate, please help
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wendy
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Post by wendy on Mar 7, 2006 8:38:29 GMT -5
hi its me again. sorry i didn't identify...just trying to get the hang of this. my name is wendy and i'm scared, lonely and desperate. lotta problems at home and need a lot of support. hope to get some responses.
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wendy
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Post by wendy on Mar 7, 2006 8:57:04 GMT -5
hi wendy from philly
tried several times to get on but i just wanted to introduce myself and say that i am brand new again and scared to death. i have a lot on my plate and have been away from recovery for a very long time. i am a crack addict. i live with an addict in complete denial. my children are in danger of being taken away and i'm miserable. everyday seems like a new nightmare, living with someone who always acts like they got it all together and that im crazy or stupid or something. nothing i say is right, i feel like i'm dealing with all the repercussions of this person's selfish acts over the years and i'm the one who got caught. this person is my husband. it is definitely a love/hate relationship.
please help and keep me in your prayers
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Post by lildee on Mar 7, 2006 15:51:13 GMT -5
Welcome Wendy, My hubby is in the same boat as you. Have you contacted CA (Cocaine Anonymous)? It is a 12 Step program for cocaine addicts. The following is their website and the phone #'s for PA. www.ca.org/Pennsylvania Eastern (215) 333-7798 Western (866) 777-0983 Get to a meeting, get a sponsor and work the steps. It does work if you are willing. Love & God Bless Lildee |
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Post by aapepe on Apr 4, 2006 14:01:22 GMT -5
Hi everybody there! Do you remember me? It's been long time since I've been here in EOR. All things are OK here in Finland and I'm still sober and still married with same gal.
I've been sober 12 sober years and hopefully more in the future!
with regards AAPepe from Finland.
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Post by dg on Apr 6, 2006 10:36:50 GMT -5
Hi AAPepe from Finland Glad to see you again and still sober!!  Its good to see someone from long ago to drop a line to let us know hows things going. Take care and Good day |
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Post by sj on Jun 6, 2006 6:49:46 GMT -5
Hi. I'm Tia, I live in Liverpool and I'm a single parent to 3 children aged 1, 5 and 10.
I am not in recovery, and I don't feel ready to put everything into giving up drinking yet. I am aware I have a problem, and I think I will have to face up to it and deal with it eventually.
Alcohol has been a part of my life for as long as I remember, but my use of it has increased over the years, and at the moment I drink most days, sometimes as much as 2 bottles of wine/ 8 cans of beer, on some days I have even started following that up with whatever spirits I can find. Once I start drinking in a day, I find it next to impossible to stop, and I will often stay up til 4/5 am in the morning, drinking until all the drink has gone. Even though I have to get up with my children at 7am.
Of course I have a problem, but drinking is only a part of it. I sometimes think I drink to give me something to focus on. I find days easier to get through when I am struggling to try and be normal and appear sober. My actual sober days feel terrifying sometimes.
I have been out of work since finishing my last teaching job in August 2004, I had my youngest child in January 2005, since then I have just got worse and worse, I feel trapped, bored, pathetic, powerless. I have had to face up to huge amounts of debt I had been ignoring, I see no way of getting into work again with my childcare/financial problems, I get little excercise, and am now visually gaining weight.
When I'm feeling positive (it does happen) I think of things I know would help me snap out of my stupor, such as joining a gym, getting a job, things that will occupy me, improve my life and distract me. But then I feel the weight of all the hurdles in my way, it seems impossible, and I just hide behind the drink again.
I have heard about some of the 12 point programme thing. My brother is a heroin addict and his last effort to stay clean involved that. To be honest, I felt more anger than anything at his lectures on it.
I feel like there are at least two parts of me, in all aspects of my life. There is the me who looks at my behavior, analises it, sees the excuses, knows that alcohol is going to make things worse, watches and is baffled by my lack of will and self-control, wonders why I appear to want to kill myself. And the other part of me reaches for that glass anyway.
I have come here because one part of me is sick to death of all my excuses, and I'm hoping I may get some inspiration, and that some of the reality might sink in and feel more real to me.
I have already read some useful things, like the description of someone here watching someone they love die from alcohol related problems. . . thankyou for telling it so straight.
I make jokes about my drinking in real life, I lie about how much I drink, and I get very scared and defensive when I think I might have to face up to it and that other people might see the full extent of my problem. I'm not yet ready to change, that part of me is still in some denial.
Here I hope I can come to the point of realisation and build up the strength to actually decide I WANT to stop. Don't know how long that might take.
I admire all of you who refuse to let it beat you. I hope to find my spirit and determination with the aid of your inspiration.
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Post by dg on Jun 13, 2006 16:04:08 GMT -5
Hi Sj, I hope you get to see this.. sometimes we forget to check the stuff we don't normally check on a regular basis. Just coming here and post what you post is a huge step and the fact you making that step is pretty much a start of your 12 step...you are hugely aware of your actions, you might not be ready to do the steps deep down just like I said just coming here reading stuff and soaking in info is a good thing. It goes to show that we are all human, and from all points of this world, the human language reamins the same when it comes to wanting to help those that ask. I wish you luck and strength in your life and your childrens as well.. just remember you are not alone in this and all you got to do is hollar and someone will hear your prayers(meaning your higher power). peace out. |
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Post by edward on Jun 28, 2006 0:49:51 GMT -5
Hello all,
I am looking for information about attenting ACOC meetings in the NY area...I am recently retired and can see that I have surrounded myself with co-dependent relationships that continually leave me feeling alone and depressed. My childhood was abusive/neglected and although I managed to "get through life" I am at a point where all my denial has overtaken me.
Would greatly appreciate any thoughts... suggestions...
Please call me 'rustyrail'
Thanks!
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Post by sj on Jun 28, 2006 20:01:16 GMT -5
Hi rustyrail, I'm afraid I can offer nothing practical (I live in the UK, and I'm don't even know what ACOC is! It's probably very obvious but it's not a set of letters I'm familiar with!  ), but have a look around the site and you might get some links that are useful. I hope you find what you are looking for. In the meantime, u want to chat, get anything off your chest, feel free. |
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Post by dg on Jun 30, 2006 16:32:24 GMT -5
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholic ) is linked on the main board. There is some info in there. We used to have a meetings relating to ACOA/Alanon but I think its not active anymore. Due to several factors. Welcome Rustyrail anyways. If you post you should get some response from someone it might take a few days for a reply as here has been slow (summer time I guess) But as Sj says anytime you want to chat or whatever please feel free to let us know ok?
Take care
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Post by lazurus on Aug 25, 2006 11:07:59 GMT -5
Hey, my name is laz, 37 yr old alocoholic. Just joined AA, but still drinking. My target date is the day after Labor Day, and I'm a little scared right now. I know I have to turn this over to God because I really am powerless against it. He (God) has been beside me my entire life. When I have'nt asked for His help and certainly when I did'nt rate it, he has always watched out for me. I know now that am a spirtual being who just happens to be in the body of a messed up human. It is time for me to walk with my Father and do his will. Thanks for listening.
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Post by lazurus on Aug 25, 2006 11:11:49 GMT -5
i am new to this site and very nervous. i have been away from recovery for quite a long time, myself and am looking desperately for new friends and support to help me through some really difficult times. sometimes it feels like i'm really going crazy. all i want is to get better odat. i've got alot on my plate, please help |
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Post by MrDuck on Aug 25, 2006 18:46:42 GMT -5
Welcome e to the site Laz. AA will work for you if you work it. Will it be easy? Time will tell. But if you work it, it will be worth it. One can find support in AA as we have all been there and done that. We also know that to keep it we have to give it away. Wish you well.
Ron
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Post by sj on Aug 27, 2006 16:10:09 GMT -5
Hey, my name is laz, 37 yr old alocoholic. Just joined AA, but still drinking. My target date is the day after Labor Day, and I'm a little scared right now. I know I have to turn this over to God because I really am powerless against it. He (God) has been beside me my entire life. When I have'nt asked for His help and certainly when I did'nt rate it, he has always watched out for me. I know now that am a spirtual being who just happens to be in the body of a messed up human. It is time for me to walk with my Father and do his will. Thanks for listening. I like the name, Lazerus! Very fitting to begin with the rest of your life Best of luck with your recovery. Spirit and body are both great things, but prone to weakness in all humans, as you say, humanity is of course flawed, makes us what we are-and I would not want to be perfect! Im not sure when labour day is *shame on me!* but let us know how you get on! |
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Post by cjmman13746 on Sept 23, 2006 14:49:15 GMT -5
my name is joe, im 25, ive been drinking for about 5 years straight everyday. i recently got married, alcolhol os destroying my relationship. i quite drinking about 1 month ago and was doing great, but one night i decided to have a glass of wine, i thought no big deal a glass wont hurt, right? well the next day i had another and slowly that one turned into 2,3,4,5 and i started getting mean to my wife and vebaly abusive. about 2 days ago it got so bad that we got into a very bad fight, we talked and made up and i have not touched alcohal in the past 2 days, but i crave it constantly, dream about it and have panic attacks from not having the alcohol, im worried that im gonna go back to drinking so i dont feel lick crap any more but i know if i do i'll lose my wife and i know that would kill me.
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Post by Lin on Sept 24, 2006 5:01:41 GMT -5
Hello JOe. I will pray for you to find the strength it takes. I am on the AlAnon side of the hallway. But I sure can relate to how your wife feels when you are verbally abusive. You are right...if You dont get help there IS a good chance you will lose her. So...how far will you go to get sober? Will you go to a detox? a rehab? Will you do out patient rehab? Will you at least go to AA meetings regularly? Those are all great steps in the right direction.
But you inow what? I'm very proud that you took one important step. You admited you had a problem and wanted to do something about it. GREAT JOB!
Wishing you the best!
LIN
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Post by home on Nov 13, 2006 12:43:20 GMT -5
I thought I would give this a try. I dont know what to do. I know I have a problem, I want to be sober. I need hope.
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Post by MrDuck on Nov 13, 2006 20:59:03 GMT -5
Welcome Home.
I am Mr Duck, or Ron, or a lot of other names that people call me. Don't know much about you but can tell you from personal experience that if you want to get sober there is hope. Not sure if you have tried AA or not. But it has helped me stay sober for many years. Going to AA for me was basically going to be the last step. The last road on the way to no were. Sure glad it worked for me and it opened up new doors and new freedoms that I never thought where possible. Hope you give it try. If your serious about staying sober, the best thing I can suggest is going to 90 meetings in 90 days. At least a meeting day for 90 days. All most all of us that have done it have remained sober and happy. Hope to hear more from you. If I can be of any help or answer any questions ask away or send me a message here.
There really is hope for those of us that want it and are willing to work for it.
Wish you well my friend.
Ron
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Post by yorkiepip66 on Mar 2, 2007 4:04:01 GMT -5
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Its good to see someone from long ago to drop a line to let us know hows things going.
~With Peace & Love, dg~ 8*)[/b][/size]
), but have a look around the site and you might get some links that are useful. I hope you find what you are looking for.
"Win, loose, or draw I have had one hell of a lot of fun being here."
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.